Boundaries Part Two
The Consequences of Ignoring Boundaries: Why You Don’t Want to F*ck Around and Find Out.
You can find Part One here.
A reminder that I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist, that said – this is advice from my own life and experiences, and is not to be used as a substitute for actual mental health professional help.
We talked last time about boundaries – what they are, what they are used for, and the basics of what a healthy boundary is.
This time, we’re going to talk about what happens when someone doesn’t respect boundaries.
Breakdown of Trust
When someone keeps ignoring or breaking our boundaries, it really messes with the trust we have in a relationship. Trust is super important for any healthy relationship – whether it’s with family or a coworker. But when boundaries are constantly ignored, it’s a straight-up message that our needs and well-being aren’t respected or valued. Trust gets all messed up and it’s hard to fix it or feel safe and understood again.
Emotional and Mental Strain
Ignoring boundaries can have serious emotional and mental effects on the person whose boundaries are crossed. It can make them feel powerless, anxious, and have low self-esteem. When our boundaries are disrespected, it disrupts our emotional safety, making us doubt ourselves and affecting our well-being. This can lead to long-term stress, depression, or more severe psychological issues.
Boundaries are very important for good communication. When someone chooses not to respect or take our boundaries seriously, it interrupts the open sharing of thoughts, emotions, and needs. This breakdown in communication can cause misunderstandings, conflicts, and strained relationships. Ignoring boundaries stops people from expressing themselves honestly and makes a situation where they might be afraid to speak up or show their true selves.
Persistent boundary violations can strain relationships of all types.
When people don’t respect boundaries, it can be hard to maintain good relationships with them. It can cause problems in personal relationships, like feeling distant, angry, or even breaking up. In the workplace, it can create a bad environment, lower productivity, and make coworkers lose trust in each other.
Ignoring boundaries will seriously damage relationships, and will probably cost you a lot in your field – be it a hobby or a 9-5 job.
When Boundary Stomping Has BIG consequences
In certain situations, not respecting limits can lead to serious consequences in the law and society. When limits are crossed to the extent of causing harassment, assault, or other harmful behaviors, legal measures may be taken against the person responsible. Furthermore, society places more importance on honouring limits, and individuals who constantly disregard them may face social outcomes like being isolated, harming their reputation, or being excluded from social groups or communities. It is crucial to uphold and respect limits in order to build healthy relationships and maintain a positive social image.
Ignoring boundaries can cause some serious problems, like broken trust, emotional strain, communication breakdown, and damaged relationships. It’s definitely not something you want to take lightly. But hey, when we recognize the importance of boundaries and make a real effort to respect them, we can actually create a cool space filled with trust, empathy, and awesome connections. So let’s keep those boundaries in mind and rock it!